Pornography and relationships!

So, I think I can rightly say this is a so called problem for the woman in a relationship/marriage. Some argue that it is completely normal for a healthy relationship, that it adds spice and variety. Others though, deem the use of porn in the bedroom as totally demeening and degrading. Personally I don't really see the problem. More so because after you have been with a partner for many years your relationship could do with a kick-start, it can give you ideas of things to try that you may never have thought about before!

I dare say that if a bloke found out his partner uses porn he would be ecstatic! Yet, when it comes to a woman finding out her bloke does then a lot of woman feel he has committed a cardinal sin!

In this article http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/woman/article2350629.ece two women give their view of what they think about using porn with their partners. One is open about enjoying using it and has no problem with her fella using it without her, prefering to be honest and open with each other. The other who has been married to her husband for 13 years says she would divorce her hubby if she ever found out that he so much as looked at porn! The poor bloke! She says that knowing he is turned on or attracted to the women on the screen it would humiliate her, get a grip woman! If this is the case then she should lock him in the house with no telly or newspapers because believe it or not missis your bloke- like many others will look at woman anywhere and size them up! But, as long as he does not stray it's you that he wants, there is no harm in looking as long as they don't act on it. Porn is just a fantasy, if you don't allow it in your relationship your bloke will still make up his own fantasies in his head, because thats just what men do (not being sexist because women do it too) At the end of the day if you deny your bloke of porn they will be just like a naughty kid and do it secretly behind your back anyway! Why not just be honest and open about it? It could improve your sex life more than you may think!